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Philosophy 101: Fuck Love.

In her interview post-beating, Rihanna said "Don't react off love. F*#! Love". FUCK LOVE. It's like the 2010 remix of "Love is Blind". And we all know it's true. Love is like Photoshop. It blurs, smudges; it takes something which may have very visible flaws and transforms it to something like perfection, in the eyes of its creator of course. This is important, is Love a creation? Is it something which we make up in our minds in order to fulfil some kind of strange emptiness, because we don't want to be alone? And if it's of our own creation, can we just as easily destroy it? Is it even real if it is a creation of the mind?

It seems pessimistic to not believe in Love. In uni, I remember countless conversations between 3 of us girl buddies debating about this topic. Miss A believed there was no such thing as love. Miss B fervently defended love. And I sat in between, waiting for an argument to convince me either/or. I will admit though, at the age of 18, my inclination was pro-Love - that it did exist, but I lacked the experience of love which would make it a fact.

Seven years later, and my opinions about love have gone from hopeful, to essential, to inconsequential. Now, Love to me seems something constructed, binding and yes, blinding. When I reflect on being in a relationship, I see how restricted I was and how utterly dependent I was on another human being. To be so dependent on someone is a dangerous thing, because when that someone is taken away, where does that leave you?


What bothers me about Love is that it makes you stupid. It makes you forgive the unforgivable. And sometimes that means we hurt ourselves over and over again because love makes us focus on the good and forget the bad. When you say it like that, it doesn't seem like such a bad thing. What's so bad about seeing the best in people all the time? Nothing of course, it's very positive for you to think like that but the fact is, it AIN'T REALITY. I want to live my life with TRUTH. I want to see things as they really are, not some photoshopped version which satisfies my own insecurities. 


Another cliche, "love is a drug". Yes, it does leave you light-headed. It takes away your focus. It's addictive. I've been through my drug phase, and yo drugs are cool and I have no regrets...but in the future, I don't wanna do drugs. For me, I feel stronger, freer and I concentrate better when I am not drugged up on love. This love thing might work for some of you, and to those I say all the best. I'm not saying every relationship out there is fucked because I know many happy couples. And these couples are the ones who have no image between them; they see each other for who they really are and are not blinded by some kind of perfection or expectation they have created in their minds. 


To all my single ladies I will just say, "never be a stupid bitch" and if you're gonna get into this love game, just remember to keep your eyes open and don't start blurring up shit. See things as they really are, or you won't be fucking love...love will be fucking YOU.