Ok Dr Phil is a wanker. I feel like punching him in the face every time I watch an episode of his show because he is everything I despise in a person: condescending, chauvinistic, conservative and a know-it-all. On today's show, a woman asked, "Dr Phil, are you God?" - and I laughed because that is exactly how the good doctor presents himself. He claims to be the number one authority on anything and everything, not to mention he thinks he can predict the future by telling his guests how he KNOWS their lives will turn out if they choose a certain path. How about GFY. I feel sorry for his guests because a lot of the time he humiliates them in order to make his point and to make it worse, he has a whole audience of Dr Phil disciples to clap and cheer at his every word.
In the episode called "Race to the Altar", Dr Phil talks to a 47 year old woman and a 47 year old man about their ideas for marriage and children. Both say that they very much want marriage and children. But when Dr Phil asks them why they haven't settled down, he portrays the reasons for the man and the woman in very different ways. Apparently the woman has not found anyone because she is too "picky" while the reason that the man has not found anyone is because women are too "flaky" and "don't follow through" when they say they want to get married and have kids.
First, why is it that when a woman knows what she wants, she is immediately labelled as "picky"? One minute Dr Phil is saying to another guest "you shouldn't settle for a loser", the next he is telling this woman that she is too "picky"! Well make up your fucking mind, Dr Phil. Or how about just fuck off altogether because you apparently have no idea what you're talking about.
Second, why is it that when a man is single, it's apparently the woman's fault? She's too "flaky"? So this 47 year old guy hasn't settled down purely because he has dated women who SAY they want to get married but actually DO NOT? In other words, it comes down soley to the woman not wanting to commit? Well that is completely fucked up. How about we take a look at the MAN in this situation and ask HIM what the hell is wrong with him that no woman wants to marry him! Clearly, there must be something wrong with him if he can't find a woman who wants to get married - this world is crawling with women who want a man to put a ring on it! Are you serious! Ok to be fair, it's obviously not just HIS fault. At least he could have acknowledged that his failed relationships were not the result of women's lack of commitment, but were due to issues from both parties and their incompatibilities.
But this kind of representation is typical of Dr Phil. In his eyes, women are the ones who need to change, it's never the men. In his eyes, women are the crazy, irrational ones who need to learn to stop being so picky and listen more to the men in their lives. I almost smashed the TV when Dr Phil was demonising his female guest and in the midst of her defending herself, he interrupted and shut her up with "it seems like you talk a lot and listen very little"!! What a faggot. I'm surprised he didn't follow that line with "...and get back in the kitchen".
What scares me most is not Dr Phil himself, but the fact that he has so many supporters who take his words as gospel. Dr Phil is NOT God. He doesn't know what's best for you simply because he has studied psychology or psychiatry. He has his own biases and value system which have been influenced by his OWN experiences and guess what, YOUR experiences are, and will be, very different. It's all well and good to hear about other people's experiences and we can most definitely learn from them but I believe we should essentially make our own choices based on intelligent decisions, taking into account the fact that the advice we may be receieving may be very biased or coming from a place of ignorance. Once again, it comes back to what I always say - DON'T BE A SHEEP. Go ahead and listen to people like Dr Phil or your family or friends, but listen with intelligence and do not take anyone's words as gospel. I believe in trusting yourself and your own instincts - if that steers you down a path which may seem "wrong" or unfavourable, maybe that is just the journey that you need to go on. I think this blog has gone on a slight tangent...but let me leave you with the one thing that I would like you to take from this:
FUCK DR PHIL.
Thank you and good evening.
